Sabo wrote: ↑Tue Apr 13, 2021 7:52 pm
Anyone have any suggestions for handling a passive-aggressive, micromanaging boss who's making me want to quit my job?
Asking for a friend.
Update! I gave my two-week notice this morning.
I am massively burned out, and my mental and physical health are suffering. My goal is to take at least a month off so I can focus on getting better, and then I’ll figure out where I go from here.
Mrs. Sabo has been very supportive of this plan. If she had any kind of hesitation, I probably wouldn’t have quit. Fortunately we’re in a good spot financially, so I’ll have time to figure out what I want to do. I’m probably going to move out of technology completely and find another career. I might need to go back to school, but I don’t see that as a bad thing.
I submitted my resignation first thing this morning, and my boss - who just came back from vacation today - called me about 30 minutes later. He said he “was blindsided and shocked” by my resignation and wanted me to stay. I explained that I’m burned out and mentally exhausted, and that his management style was a major factor with my unhappiness.
My boss retorted I never told him explicitly that he did things that made me unhappy and that he would learn about my displeasure after the fact. When I expressed incredulity about that, he said I have a reputation as a curmudgeon and “you’ve come across as unhappy for as long as I’ve known you”. I should’ve hung up on him at that point.
My boss is now understandably freaked out, and he’s making overtures about trying to keep me. But his reaction - and the lack of awareness about how I felt - has only strengthened my resolve to leave.
So 2021 is shaping up to be a great year. I know I’m trading one set of problems for another, but at least I’m doing it on my own terms.
Birds don’t suck. They lack the necessary anatomical structures to do so.