Engagement Ring Advice

[TT2.0]

the lady told me if i ever proposed she would prefer her birthstone, which is a ruby. ive beenlooking around but i know fuckqll about jewelry. what do you guys think about this ring? anybody think they can find something better? more engagementy?

https://www.amazon.com/Carat-Emerald-Wh ... 0000-60000

[TT2.0]

by the way skip all of the "dont get married" & "she will just cheat on you like every other girl youve ever dated" jokes and advice. Shes the one i want to marry and if i get rejected or crushed so be it

[Johnnie]

As a millennial and hater of everything jewelry because it does nothing and is disgustingly overpriced (read this article from The Atlantic from 1982(!) about the DeBeers cartel), I do have to concede that at some point I'll have to make a gawdawful purchase because.

I'll probably end up with moissanite because it's cheap enough, shinier than a diamond, and I can say "nothing on this earth was good enough for you."

[TT2.0]

As a millennial and hater of everything jewelry because it does nothing and is disgustingly overpriced (read this article from The Atlantic from 1982(!) about the DeBeers cartel), I do have to concede that at some point I'll have to make a gawdawful purchase because.

I'll probably end up with moissanite because it's cheap enough, shinier than a diamond, and I can say "nothing on this earth was good enough for you."

shes not a big diamond girl and rubies are much cheaper then diamonds. i think this is a pretty ring, but i dont really know. im out of my element johnnie and i should shut the fuck up

[DSafetyGuy]

the lady told me if i ever proposed...

Well, since it sounds like this thought has crossed her mind, why don't you ask her what she would "theoretically" like?

A female friend of mine gave me this advice. Without it, I would have had zero idea that my wife wanted an antique ring and she ended up very happy with the result.

[Pruitt]

My wife is a take charge sort.

When I was planning to propose, my mother told me that we could use the diamond from my great aunt's ring. So when proposed, it was with my initial ring and I told her about the diamond.

She was more than happy to take the diamond and design her own ring.

Maybe that's a route you want to take? Propose with something that has personal meaning for you and have her pick a ring that she likes?

Also, is ordering jewelry from Amazon something that is done these days? Can you trust these guys?

[bfj]

Look at the rings she wears now. Does that ring look like her "style". I got the diamond and then took one of my wife's favorite rings to the jeweler and let him design something similar to it for the engagement ring. That way I knew she would like the look of the ring beforehand. It worked.

[Moreta]

If she specified a ruby rather than a diamond, she might prefer something less full of diamond.

I'm not really much help. My first engagement ring was a KitchenAid mixer. My second was a house.

[Moreta]

Look at the rings she wears now. Does that ring look like her "style". I got the diamond and then took one of my wife's favorite rings to the jeweler and let him design something similar to it for the engagement ring. That way I knew she would like the look of the ring beforehand. It worked.

This is excellent advice.

[TT2.0]

she doesnt wear rings now. her earrings are kind of simple. im also tryimgto figure out her ring size without tipping her off. i really want the surprise element of the proposal

[bfj]

If she specified a ruby rather than a diamond, she might prefer something less full of diamond.

I'm not really much help. My first engagement ring was a KitchenAid mixer. My second was a house.

You must have strong hands.

[TT2.0]

well played

[bfj]

Go to a jeweler (not Jared or Zales) and ask them to show you some ruby engagement rings. Tell them your price range, maybe they can design something unique that is simpler. If she doesn't wear rings, a big rock may not be what she wants. Maybe just a ruby with a diamond on each side. That ring doesn't do it for me, but that's just one adipose semite's $.02.

[Pruitt]

And congratulations!

[TT2.0]

Go to a jeweler (not Jared or Zales) and ask them to show you some ruby engagement rings. Tell them your price range, maybe they can design something unique that is simpler. If she doesn't wear rings, a big rock may not be what she wants. Maybe just a ruby with a diamond on each side. That ring doesn't do it for me, but that's just one adipose semite's $.02.

i appreciate the advice and honesty. i def need a ring that "does it" for her. i want the happy excited reaction....that same feeling i get when rosario dawson gets naked in a movie

[The Sybian]

that same feeling i get when rosario dawson gets naked in a movie

And there is your proposal line.

If she said she wants a ruby ring, consider yourself lucky and get a ruby ring. I had a roommate who insisted on getting an enormous diamond, despite his now wife constantly telling him she wanted a small diamond, because she would feel embarrassed and self conscious wearing a giant rock, and she thought it was a waste of money. She even asked me to make sure he got a small diamond, because she knew he would want to show off. He told me the diamond isn't about the woman, and he bought a ridiculously huge diamond, and she was pissed and uncomfortable. But hey, he got to show everyone what a big man he was!

My wife doesn't care about jewelry, a $30 earring could be more cherished than a $5,000 ring. She wanted something small, and once we had a kid, she stopped wearing it. I'm amazed she never lost it (like her original wedding ring). I became a scientist researching the classifications, and in the end, she couldn't give a fuck about the diamond itself, it would have meant just as much if I got a lesser diamond. My point, get her what she wants, and you'll both be happier for it.

[TT2.0]

that same feeling i get when rosario dawson gets naked in a movie

And there is your proposal line.

If she said she wants a ruby ring, consider yourself lucky and get a ruby ring. I had a roommate who insisted on getting an enormous diamond, despite his now wife constantly telling him she wanted a small diamond, because she would feel embarrassed and self conscious wearing a giant rock, and she thought it was a waste of money. She even asked me to make sure he got a small diamond, because she knew he would want to show off. He told me the diamond isn't about the woman, and he bought a ridiculously huge diamond, and she was pissed and uncomfortable. But hey, he got to show everyone what a big man he was!

My wife doesn't care about jewelry, a $30 earring could be more cherished than a $5,000 ring. She wanted something small, and once we had a kid, she stopped wearing it. I'm amazed she never lost it (like her original wedding ring). I became a scientist researching the classifications, and in the end, she couldn't give a fuck about the diamond itself, it would have meant just as much if I got a lesser diamond. My point, get her what she wants, and you'll both be happier for it.

that is an amazing proposal line...maybe a wedding vow. i promise to always look at you the same way i look at rosario dawson naked in movies, i promise to always give you half my fries and i promise to always pullout because i know you hate kids, for as long as we both shall live

[DaveInSeattle]

Dont..

[Rush2112]

Place and feeling mean more than the ring....

[degenerasian]

What engagement ring?