govmentchedda wrote:
I thought Bibs was Gunpowder's girl? I'm so confused.
My bad, for some reason I thought SL wrote the post. Makes more sense coming from Bronto. The girls probably wanted a guy who knew what the hell he was doing. Kids are the proof.
low blow
It's common knowledge the GPJ BRINGS IT, son!
Bronto's going to be in Ft. Laud next weekend, so we'll see if he tries to put the moves on my gf to show that he's still 'got it'.
Pack a vest for your james in the city of intercourse
Brontoburglar wrote:Went out once (and once as not a date) with a girl last week who I'd become friends with over the last month or so. Super funny, extremely hot. Complete 90 yard punt.
It was the best first date I'd ever had, quite frankly, so I really liked my chances. Aaaaaand got the "I'm not looking for that right now" today. Sweet!
She has a boyfriend now and messaged me today asking if I'd give her a workout plan. Hell. No.
"We're not the smartest people in the world. We go down the straightaway and turn left. That's literally what we do." -- Clint Bowyer
Brontoburglar wrote:Went out once (and once as not a date) with a girl last week who I'd become friends with over the last month or so. Super funny, extremely hot. Complete 90 yard punt.
It was the best first date I'd ever had, quite frankly, so I really liked my chances. Aaaaaand got the "I'm not looking for that right now" today. Sweet!
She has a boyfriend now and messaged me today asking if I'd give her a workout plan. Hell. No.
This is where you give her one that will pack on the pounds.
You know what you need? A lyrical sucker punch to the face.
Brontoburglar wrote:Went out once (and once as not a date) with a girl last week who I'd become friends with over the last month or so. Super funny, extremely hot. Complete 90 yard punt.
It was the best first date I'd ever had, quite frankly, so I really liked my chances. Aaaaaand got the "I'm not looking for that right now" today. Sweet!
She has a boyfriend now and messaged me today asking if I'd give her a workout plan. Hell. No.
Plan should be heavy on boyfriend spotting her and offering form advice on deadlifts. Should be over between them after a couple sessions.
Ever watch any of the "Double Your Dating" series? Or read books like The Red Queen or The Game?
Basically you aren't threatening enough as a nice guy. Not threatening in a bad way, mind you. It's just that there's no extra mystery or edge about you. I'm in this boat too, so don't feel as though I'm berating you or anything.
Women want a dude that has that charisma about him. Why do you think that Clooney, DiCaprio, and Jeter always have tens? Sure, they're all rich as hell, but they'd still be drowning in vagina because of who they are. The money just amplifies it.
This is how I know that if I ever become famous every girl that suddenly finds me attractive is full of shit. I'm transparent right now. But I still get the "Wow, you're single? And you use internet dating websites? Why?" stuff. It's all a damn charade, really.
What I'm trying to say is that you aren't the problem. Generics and evolution are. And it's probable that, like me, you're too much of a nice guy to try something or be someone bold. But keep trying. That's the thing.
mister d wrote:Couldn't have pegged me better.
EnochRoot wrote:I mean, whatever. Johnnie's all hot cuz I ride him.
My physique and good looks? You're shitting me. That's total fallacy, btw. I'm just a dude. It's all about attraction. If I was some superhero I'd have a lot more to show for it. I was a virgin until I was 23. I'm 30 now. Don't think I've been at this since before puberty.
And don't be so hard on yourself! I think bad sometimes when it comes to me, women, and the forces of who I'm attracted to. But I've rationalized my shortcomings to needing to be cognizant of who I am attracted to. Just because she's hot doesn't mean she's worth it. Is that one friend I know always getting the hot chick and cheating on his gorgeous girlfriend? Yea, but look at the quality of everyone involved. They're all a broken mess.
So just realize that a decent one will show up at one point and not give a damn that you think you're overweight or not attractive. She'll find you handsome and attractive. Unless you give her reason after reason to not like you (negativity can be that reason), you'll be fine.
But if you're worried about looks, just eat right and work out. Start slow and build up. I still think I look awful. And I still feel like the last kid picked in gym class. Use it all as motivation to get better.
mister d wrote:Couldn't have pegged me better.
EnochRoot wrote:I mean, whatever. Johnnie's all hot cuz I ride him.
I didn't say that to put myself down. You are MR. CROSSFIT! You had a girl who wet her panties so bad she wrote the most nervous/hot email.
AS you guys have stated repeatedly. If she likes you she likes you There are no fucking rules. I asked that blonde out.... rejected. Then after that seminar episode I called her on it. Now she's pissed.
Then I was really relaxed and fun this last first date with a girl a coworker suggested. Probably showed my best personality. And...silence.
so fuck'em
Kung Fu movies are like porn. There's 1 on 1, then 2 on 1, then a group scene..
Rarely does. Other than dressing nice and going to nice restaurants I don't show my cards early. Or else I'd just get 10s that are broken messes. Im 37. Im past all that.
Kung Fu movies are like porn. There's 1 on 1, then 2 on 1, then a group scene..
That's more than me. I went 0 for Korea. And I still keep going back to Tucson partly because of the one girl I met online there. So yea.
And the one that sent me that message here literally said that night "I'm pretty independent. But if we hook up and keep hooking up, at some point I'll get needy and turn crazy." I haven't called her back since I've returned. Other than her, I haven't gotten with anyone else in Germany. I've been here since June.
I don't like putting myself out there like that, but at the same time I hate taking on the perception that I can do whatever/whenever. It drives me nuts.
mister d wrote:Couldn't have pegged me better.
EnochRoot wrote:I mean, whatever. Johnnie's all hot cuz I ride him.
At least you have the Tucson girl to fall back on. I'm sure you continually correspond with her wherever you are in the world.
That's nice to have.
My dates were just wastes of time and energy. I really liked two of them (not this last one). The others I hadn't even gotten to the like stage yet and I just get dumped.
Kung Fu movies are like porn. There's 1 on 1, then 2 on 1, then a group scene..
degenerasian wrote:I thought about it this morning.. i saw 9 girls this year.
Just an awful 2013.
Despite having a serious bad spell, you never know what's around the corner. Romantic extrapolation is a fool's game.
I had many worse years when I was single. Worse three years.
Then lightning struck.
I'm now at 25 years of happy marriage and counting. The loneliness and pain that came before is pretty small stuff in the larger picture.
I don't think my story is all that exceptional. It takes a lot for a relationship to really work. Finding that quickly happens only rarely.
Best of luck to you, Degen.
Thanks. How did you meet your wife?
I'm just going to lay low and concentrate on other stuff. I may take a short road trip soon to get away from it all.
I wasn't looking for lightning in a bottle, I just met girls at some events or got set up by friends. I was willing to really work on getting to know someone and establishing that relationship. I can't get past Date 2. It's like I reek in person or something.
Kung Fu movies are like porn. There's 1 on 1, then 2 on 1, then a group scene..
degenerasian wrote:I'm not even dating for sex. I'd just like to find someone.
I'd be quick to say that is exactly the right attitude except I have no idea what single women want anymore. The dilemma could be that they don't quite know either. But I like to believe traditional reasons for long-term relationships haven't been replaced by some new and bizarre element beyond the obvious.
Join a curling club. Lots of single girls at curling clubs. You can show some degree of athleticism. It's a public place. I get hit on by the single women in my mixed league all the time, possibly because I don't wear a wedding ring but it could be that I'm so utterly dashing and suave and a such damn good curler. Really, though, they are remarkably social places. Every curling club in the world has a bar at which people congregate post-game and mingle. Even in my men's super-league, guys sit around after a two-hour game for almost another two hours downing pitchers and chatting. And with the women, odds are that they might at least "know someone" that just happens to show up for the social aspect. A huge percentage of curlers, especially over 30-years old, join curling clubs as a married couple, a dating couple, or as singles looking to meet someone. Just a thought.
Or get a Saluki. Because Salukis are chick magnets.
