The Sybian wrote:The article also says he was previously told she was not mentally capable of consenting, so he was on notice. I feel comfortable labeling this disturbing.
Good point.
The criminal complaint said Rayhons acknowledged being told May 15 that his wife did not have the cognitive ability to consent to sexual activity.
On May 23, Henry Rayhons went into his wife's room and pulled the curtain closed, the complaint said. Donna Rayhon's roommate told authorities she heard noises indicating Henry Rayhons was having sex with Donna Rayhons, the complaint said.
So yeah, he went for some nookie only 8 days after being told he couldn't. And I'm going to guess he had tried (or succeeded) before May 15, which is why they told him that. Yeah, that sucks.
On the other hand, I guess he didn't cheat on her, right? If he really needed some lovin' and he couldn't bring himself to cheat on his incapacitated wife, I think that's actually kind of sweet.
Side story - I have a friend (a former coworker who I liked) who is probably around 55 or 60 and his wife has Alzheimer's. This guy is copywriter who is often just doing freelance work, so he has no money and his one daughter is useless for help. He's doing this on his own and his wife really went downhill quickly over the past few years. He posts updates to Facebook on a nearly daily basis and it's just heartbreaking. It's to the point now where she's just a large toddler. The woman he married is effectively gone and has been for a while - replaced by a cranky, difficult adult-sized toddler. He couldn't take a full-time job even if he wanted to.
So, about a year ago, he posted something to the effect that he was going to be a father again! It kind of blew my mind. A few clarifying posts made it clear that somehow he'd had a fling with a younger woman and had gotten her pregnant. I wasn't sure how to feel about it, but decided that it was OK. He wasn't abandoning his wife, but he didn't have any real companionship and people deserve that. He's a good dude who needed some good in his life. Maybe a baby at his age and life stage isn't the best choice, but then, why not?
I should also mention that this guy also quit drinking some time in the past few years. It's been a hell of a ride for him.
Alzheimer's really sucks.