The Swamp

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 2:57 pm Seriously...I have no game whatsoever and sexual tension gives me anxiety. I have to hope someone finds my social awkwardness adorable.

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 3:15 pm As a matter of immediate interest, I think I'd like to do the sex again. Do vacuous floozies still require cool sports cars?

Pruitt wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 3:10 pm I don't know how old you are, but from what I hear ... single guys in their 40s and 50s ... own a... pool ... and... 6...9...

Giff wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 3:43 pm I'm going back to Hartford in April, hopefully. I'll plan on arriving a day early and we can go scare up some tail.

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 3:49 pm

Giff wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 3:43 pm I'm going back to Hartford in April, hopefully. I'll plan on arriving a day early and we can go scare up some tail.

Okay, but I'm not having a threesome with you.

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 3:52 pm I don't know though. Who knows?

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 4:31 pm I don't know what that is but sure!

degenerasian wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 5:04 pm let's vote, profile pick should in a Steelers jersey or not?

degenerasian wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 5:04 pm let's vote, profile pick should in a Steelers jersey or not?

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 2:44 pm

BSF21 wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 2:35 pm Hope however it works out ends up in your favor JLo.

I really think it's going to work out in both of our favors. We already get along and communicate a thousand times better just having decided on this. I get to keep my house, joint custody of kids with primary residence. I'll have to write a check for about 100k for half the value of the house but I kind of see that as just moving money from a mutual fund investment to a real estate one.

Brontoburglar wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 4:39 pm

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 4:31 pm I don't know what that is but sure!

oh shit we're gonna build j-lo a bumble profile

(women message you first. by far the best mainstream dating app around)

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 2:27 pm So me getting divorced is a thing now. I haven't been single since I was 22. What's that like these days?

DaveInSeattle wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:13 pm

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 2:27 pm So me getting divorced is a thing now. I haven't been single since I was 22. What's that like these days?

Bummer man.

(Get a good lawyer, right now. Even if you don't think you'll need one, you will)

The Sybian wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:49 pm

DaveInSeattle wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:13 pm

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 2:27 pm So me getting divorced is a thing now. I haven't been single since I was 22. What's that like these days?

Bummer man.

(Get a good lawyer, right now. Even if you don't think you'll need one, you will)

No way, if the separation is truly amicable, get a mediator. It's exponentially less expensive, and focuses on cooperating to come to a resolution rather than an adversarial approach. You come out with a legally binding agreement, and ideally everyone is satisfied with the result. With attorneys, they feel the need to get their client the best outcome, and it becomes a zero sum game.

govmentchedda wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 9:01 pm

The Sybian wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:49 pm

DaveInSeattle wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:13 pm

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 2:27 pm So me getting divorced is a thing now. I haven't been single since I was 22. What's that like these days?

Bummer man.

(Get a good lawyer, right now. Even if you don't think you'll need one, you will)

No way, if the separation is truly amicable, get a mediator. It's exponentially less expensive, and focuses on cooperating to come to a resolution rather than an adversarial approach. You come out with a legally binding agreement, and ideally everyone is satisfied with the result. With attorneys, they feel the need to get their client the best outcome, and it becomes a zero sum game.

Not always, and mediators cannot give you (shouldn't give you) legal advice. Often mediators in pro se divorce cases give out legal advice, and the parties are none the wiser at the time. I've taken over numerous post judgment cases where a party got bad advice from a mediator, after attending mediation without an attorney. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely a lot of attorneys that will overwork your case, but I would strongly recommend at least consulting with an attorney alone to hear the process of a divorce case in your area. Spend the hour or so with a divorce attorney first to get a feel for all of the specifics, then decide whether or not you want to retain him or her.

If you don't know any divorce attorneys or divorce mediators, you're taking a risk either way. You could pay more than you should in the short term if you hire the wrong attorney, and you could pay more than you should in the long term if you don't at least consult with a divorce attorney.

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 7:42 pm

Brontoburglar wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 4:39 pm

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 4:31 pm I don't know what that is but sure!

oh shit we're gonna build j-lo a bumble profile

(women message you first. by far the best mainstream dating app around)

Alright, but I can't date a churchy, a Trump-voter, or a Pats fan so that probably significantly reduces my viable options.

govmentchedda wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 9:01 pm

The Sybian wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:49 pm

DaveInSeattle wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:13 pm

Jerloma wrote: ↑Mon Feb 05, 2018 2:27 pm So me getting divorced is a thing now. I haven't been single since I was 22. What's that like these days?

Bummer man.

(Get a good lawyer, right now. Even if you don't think you'll need one, you will)

No way, if the separation is truly amicable, get a mediator. It's exponentially less expensive, and focuses on cooperating to come to a resolution rather than an adversarial approach. You come out with a legally binding agreement, and ideally everyone is satisfied with the result. With attorneys, they feel the need to get their client the best outcome, and it becomes a zero sum game.

Not always, and mediators cannot give you (shouldn't give you) legal advice. Often mediators in pro se divorce cases give out legal advice, and the parties are none the wiser at the time. I've taken over numerous post judgment cases where a party got bad advice from a mediator, after attending mediation without an attorney. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely a lot of attorneys that will overwork your case, but I would strongly recommend at least consulting with an attorney alone to hear the process of a divorce case in your area. Spend the hour or so with a divorce attorney first to get a feel for all of the specifics, then decide whether or not you want to retain him or her.

If you don't know any divorce attorneys or divorce mediators, you're taking a risk either way. You could pay more than you should in the short term if you hire the wrong attorney, and you could pay more than you should in the long term if you don't at least consult with a divorce attorney.

Jerloma wrote: ↑Tue Feb 06, 2018 10:12 am
Why so complicated? I'm buying her out of the house. She's not going after any of my retirement and savings. I'm not going after any of her income. It's done. Who do I get that's just gonna say, "Great, sign here."?

Rush2112 wrote: ↑Tue Feb 06, 2018 10:45 am

Jerloma wrote: ↑Tue Feb 06, 2018 10:12 am
Why so complicated? I'm buying her out of the house. She's not going after any of my retirement and savings. I'm not going after any of her income. It's done. Who do I get that's just gonna say, "Great, sign here."?

Not sure how it differs in RI, but in MA we drew up an agreement, had it reviewed by a lawyer, then went in front of a judge that asked if we both agreed and then signed the agreement. Cost us 200 bucks maybe.

Johnnie wrote: ↑Tue Feb 06, 2018 1:20 am You got married at 22 and you weren't a military member who fell in love in either tech school or with a stripper? Why?

Anywho, I'm sorry/happy for you. I hope it all works out for your family's sake. That shit is tough.

As for dating, hit the gym now and download some apps. Then furiously start swiping right. Just don't use gym selfies in your profile pics. There is a girl that wants to bang you. Believe in yourself!

Rush2112 wrote: ↑Tue Feb 06, 2018 10:45 am

Jerloma wrote: ↑Tue Feb 06, 2018 10:12 am
Why so complicated? I'm buying her out of the house. She's not going after any of my retirement and savings. I'm not going after any of her income. It's done. Who do I get that's just gonna say, "Great, sign here."?

Not sure how it differs in RI, but in MA we drew up an agreement, had it reviewed by a lawyer, then went in front of a judge that asked if we both agreed and then signed the agreement. Cost us 200 bucks maybe.