The Sybian wrote: ↑Wed Feb 07, 2018 9:41 pm
Jerloma wrote: ↑Wed Feb 07, 2018 9:35 pm
Oh my god, you're insane, Syb. I could never do that.
It's so much easier than trying to come up with a line. If you need a line, tell her if she liked your huge dick in her dream, you are ready to disappoint the fuck out of her.
Or you could just say, "hey, have you heard I'm now single? Want to grab a drink Saturday night?"
1) I am practically a monk, having married my high school girlfriend.
2) I've been a fairly successful wing man, mainly because it's well understood I'm not looking to hook up. Not something I have had to say, it is either already known or it's a vibe I tend to kick off.
3) That said, I can tell you that women almost can't help flirting with men that are in a relationship. I've had a bunch of instances where I've had to deal with highly uncomfortable situations. I haven't personally been in "coming out of a long-term" but I'm pretty sure this a variant of that. I've read that part of this comes down to "some woman thought this guy was worth marrying or being with for years, so he's marked as desirable." Not saying it's solid logic, but we're talking about relationships, so...
4) So, I have very little game in the sense of hooking up, but I've been involved in a lot of transactions. That girl wants to fuck you. There's not even really a question in my mind. She probably is well-aware of your situation and knows you're now on the market. Even if she doesn't, she might have had some intuition kick in.
But the bottom line is that just mentioning she dreamed about you is a slam dunk invitation. The follow-up message? C'mon, man. And I agree with Syb, you basically just have to say you're newly single* and ask her out for a drink.
* If she says, "Yeah, I know," you can just invite her to your house for a drink.
You can lead a horse to fish, but you can't fish out a horse.