Proud Parental Unit Crowing Thread

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Mon Feb 13, 2023 8:31 am

Appreciate all the words, gentlemen. Weekend was fine until Sat night...lots of achiness and just general unease. That lasted through the night and then was good most of day yesterday but the night again snuck up. We've been good on the meds, but this is the first major surgery the kid has had, so knowing what's normal and what isn't is still a learning process. Doesn't make it more comfortable, but makes it easier to understand that it's natural. The bandages are starting to become a problem due to itchiness/tightness. The surgical drains come out tomorrow am with the tight bandages, so fingers crossed that helps lower the overall discomfort.

But I really appreciate all the support.

Pruitt IV · Post by **Pruitt IV** » Mon Feb 13, 2023 11:30 am

My wife has had to have the drains a couple of terms - she felt a lot better once they came out.

Hang in there, spring is coming.

Reaper · Post by **Reaper** » Mon Feb 13, 2023 12:59 pm

I missed this thread last week, but very happy for your son that he gets to live his true life and that he has such brave and supportive parents. I have to use two hands to count the number of friends that have had kids come out to their parents as trans and thankful that my friend group are the kind of people that will give them whatever they need to be accepted and loved as who they are.

rass · Post by **rass** » Wed Feb 15, 2023 3:07 pm

rass wrote: ↑Wed Feb 01, 2023 12:03 pm Kid’s 17th birthday and she insisted on doing her driver’s exam today. We felt she was prepared, but she got the cliche mean DMV employee who yelled at her for using her side mirror while parallel parking, made her do it again, and then she bumped a cone coming out of the space. Game over. She’s pretty devastated, but I think it’s mostly pride fucking with her.

She gets another chance in 2 weeks or so.

What a CF.

The only appointment we could get in what the kid considered a reasonable window is at a facility over an hour away. The car we plan on having her drive going once she is actually licensed has a mechanical parking brake, but it's a foot brake and only available from the driver's seat - not allowed for the test.

I bought a used car to be my get-around-town car and it has a centrally placed mechanical handbrake, but when I finally had the bright idea to try it out this AM the car bitches and cries when I drive with the brake on but doesn't fully prevent movement - not allowed for the test (or dicey enough that I don't want to bet a long drive and PTO day on it).

We have a friend who offered multiple times to let us borrow her car for the exam and we called in that favor this morning, but she realized this afternoon that she never received the paperwork to renew her registration and therefore never did it so she's going over and above to scramble to get that taken care of today (something she would have to eventually do anyway, but not ASAP).

So if that all gets taken care of we still need to drive an hour+ tomorrow and hope she passes.

(in the meantime 2 of her track teammates took the test and one of them failed so she's feeling a little better about her first test, not sure how we'll all react if she bombs again tomorrow)

Steve of phpBB · Post by **Steve of phpBB** » Wed Feb 15, 2023 3:10 pm

rass wrote: ↑Wed Feb 15, 2023 3:07 pm
rass wrote: ↑Wed Feb 01, 2023 12:03 pm Kid’s 17th birthday and she insisted on doing her driver’s exam today. We felt she was prepared, but she got the cliche mean DMV employee who yelled at her for using her side mirror while parallel parking, made her do it again, and then she bumped a cone coming out of the space. Game over. She’s pretty devastated, but I think it’s mostly pride fucking with her.

She gets another chance in 2 weeks or so.
What a CF.

The only appointment we could get in what the kid considered a reasonable window is at a facility over an hour away. The car we plan on having her drive going once she is actually licensed has a mechanical parking brake, but it's a foot brake and only available from the driver's seat - not allowed for the test.

I bought a used car to be my get-around-town car and it has a centrally placed mechanical handbrake, but when I finally had the bright idea to try it out this AM the car bitches and cries when I drive with the brake on but doesn't fully prevent movement - not allowed for the test (or dicey enough that I don't want to bet a long drive and PTO day on it).

We have a friend who offered multiple times to let us borrow her car for the exam and we called in that favor this morning, but she realized this afternoon that she never received the paperwork to renew her registration and therefore never did it so she's going over and above to scramble to get that taken care of today (something she would have to eventually do anyway, but not ASAP).

So if that all gets taken care of we still need to drive an hour+ tomorrow and hope she passes.

(in the meantime 2 of her track teammates took the test and one of them failed so she's feeling a little better about her first test, not sure how we'll all react if she bombs again tomorrow)

This all sounds way bizarre to me.

Does she have a learner's permit that allows her to drive with you or another adult in the front seat? Is that limited to cars with a centrally placed mechanical handbrake?

rass · Post by **rass** » Wed Feb 15, 2023 3:17 pm

Yes, and of course not.

sancarlos · Post by **sancarlos** » Wed Feb 15, 2023 9:03 pm

Good luck!

rass · Post by **rass** » Thu Feb 16, 2023 1:27 pm

Passed!

But no license because we had a 10:40am appt and by the time we made it to a licensing center they weren’t taking walk ins.

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Thu Feb 16, 2023 1:50 pm

rass wrote: ↑Thu Feb 16, 2023 1:27 pm Passed!

But no license because we had a 10:40am appt and by the time we made it to a licensing center they weren’t taking walk ins.

She should get a job delivering uber eats.

(This is a huge step in a young person's life. Good for her. Now, I'm sure you and momma will be a mess for a bit.)

govmentchedda · Post by **govmentchedda** » Thu Feb 16, 2023 2:33 pm

Nice work! But WTF NJ, how effing hard does this need to be?

rass · Post by **rass** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 8:38 am

All done. She was first in line this morning. My wife said she was treated like a princess by the security guard who otherwise spent the pre-8AM timeframe yelling at the non-English speakers in the line.

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 8:41 am

rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 8:38 am All done. She was first in line this morning. My wife said she was treated like a princess by the security guard who otherwise spent the pre-8AM timeframe yelling at the non-English speakers in the line.

So mom took to this appointment. I think I'm beginning to see the problem to begin with.

rass · Post by **rass** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 8:44 am

A_B wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 8:41 am
rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 8:38 am All done. She was first in line this morning. My wife said she was treated like a princess by the security guard who otherwise spent the pre-8AM timeframe yelling at the non-English speakers in the line.
So mom took to this appointment. I think I'm beginning to see the problem to begin with.

I was willing to go tomorrow AM but I already blew two PTO days on the driver's test part of the process.

govmentchedda · Post by **govmentchedda** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 9:04 am

rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 8:38 am All done. She was first in line this morning. My wife said she was treated like a princess by the security guard who otherwise spent the pre-8AM timeframe yelling at the non-English speakers in the line.

A ginger win!

rass · Post by **rass** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am

And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.

sancarlos · Post by **sancarlos** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:32 am

Happy for you, Rass!

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:35 am

rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.

Drugs. She's going to buy drugs. Probably get drunk on the way there, too.

The Sybian · Post by **The Sybian** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:37 am

A_B wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:35 am
rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.
Drugs. She's going to buy drugs. Probably get drunk on the way there, too.

At least have her pickup some edibles for you.

mister d · Post by **mister d** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:42 am

I bet she's going to the big new food hall in BH.

Giff · Post by **Giff** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:51 am

That's awesome, rass! I don't envy the worry, but dread it.

My 7-year-old sang Flowers at karaoke they had up at a restaurant/bar by our house. She killed it!

Steve of phpBB · Post by **Steve of phpBB** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 12:20 pm

rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.

Lol

Ryan · Post by **Ryan** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 12:36 pm

"Yeah so the DMV just called and they screwed up you totally failed. Yeah, you can talk to the woman right n...oh no she hung up"

elflaco2 · Post by **elflaco2** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 12:48 pm

rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.

we held him off for three days .. because of insurance... since then, he has driven himself to school each day. and into town on a friday night, and out to celebrate with the track team their big win last weekend... horse has left the barn.

wlu_lax6 · Post by **wlu_lax6** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 1:20 pm

Son has had his full license now for 3 weeks. No big deal him driving to practice or what not...but wife is not psyc'd about him driving others yet. Son has gotten a bit snippy to her about "I drive past his house on the way home". But the Mrs. is a firm no until he gets more solo time behind the wheel.

....but the real reason he is snippy......first girlfriend coincided with license...the boy has no interest in mom or dad driving for a date.

.....Have I mentioned that may religiously agnostic (and maybe antagonistic) 1/2 conservative jew, 1/2 catholic son's girlfriend is mormon.

sancarlos · Post by **sancarlos** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 3:39 pm

wlu_lax6 wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 1:20 pm ....but the real reason he is snippy......first girlfriend coincided with license...the boy has no interest in mom or dad driving for a date.

.....Have I mentioned that may religiously agnostic (and maybe antagonistic) 1/2 conservative jew, 1/2 catholic son's girlfriend is mormon.

Mormon? is he open to converting? Has he listed his favorite potential missionary destinations, yet? He can get engaged before he goes. BYU will give him a discount on married-student housing.

mister d · Post by **mister d** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 3:54 pm

sancarlos wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 3:39 pmHas he listed his favorite potential missionary destinations, yet?

; P

The Sybian · Post by **The Sybian** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:01 pm

sancarlos wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 3:39 pm
wlu_lax6 wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 1:20 pm ....but the real reason he is snippy......first girlfriend coincided with license...the boy has no interest in mom or dad driving for a date.

.....Have I mentioned that may religiously agnostic (and maybe antagonistic) 1/2 conservative jew, 1/2 catholic son's girlfriend is mormon.
Mormon? is he open to converting?

That's the beauty of Mormons, they don't ask for consent to convert people. Hell, they don't even require that converts are still alive! (scandal a few years back when Mormons were boasting about their growth and someone discovered they were enrolling Holocaust victims as converted to Mormonism). That doesn't sound cultish at all...

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:05 pm

Steve of phpBB wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 12:20 pm
rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.
Lol

And today my oldest showed up in Boston without ever telling us they were heading to the airport. We knew they were traveling, but it's weird to just be out of the loop. They are 22, for those so inclined to wonder.

Pruitt IV · Post by **Pruitt IV** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:11 pm

The Sybian wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:01 pm
sancarlos wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 3:39 pm
wlu_lax6 wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 1:20 pm ....but the real reason he is snippy......first girlfriend coincided with license...the boy has no interest in mom or dad driving for a date.

.....Have I mentioned that may religiously agnostic (and maybe antagonistic) 1/2 conservative jew, 1/2 catholic son's girlfriend is mormon.
Mormon? is he open to converting?
That's the beauty of Mormons, they don't ask for consent to convert people. Hell, they don't even require that converts are still alive! (scandal a few years back when Mormons were boasting about their growth and someone discovered they were enrolling Holocaust victims as converted to Mormonism). That doesn't sound cultish at all...

Including Anne Frank

rass · Post by **rass** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:16 pm

A_B wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:05 pm
Steve of phpBB wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 12:20 pm
rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.
Lol
And today my oldest showed up in Boston without ever telling us they were heading to the airport. We knew they were traveling, but it's weird to just be out of the loop. They are 22, for those so inclined to wonder.

I'm pretty sure some people buy drugs in Boston...

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:24 pm

rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:16 pm
A_B wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:05 pm
Steve of phpBB wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 12:20 pm
rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.
Lol
And today my oldest showed up in Boston without ever telling us they were heading to the airport. We knew they were traveling, but it's weird to just be out of the loop. They are 22, for those so inclined to wonder.
I'm pretty sure some people buy drugs in Boston...

I'd be mad if they didn't! I gave them money for two vape carts once. I have yet to see the carts nor have I been refunded.

rass · Post by **rass** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:40 pm

This is the first Friday since she started working regularly where I'll be home and I don't have to go pick her up (or procure an Uber ride there and back if I end up not sober). Does anyone want to rage?

Ryan · Post by **Ryan** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:55 pm

IS YOUR TEAMMATE AROUND?

rass · Post by **rass** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 5:02 pm

Ryan wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:55 pm IS YOUR TEAMMATE AROUND?

SHIT

But seriously Fridays would be more open for me now. And I guess Saturdays. Yuck.

sancarlos · Post by **sancarlos** » Fri Feb 17, 2023 5:56 pm

A_B wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:24 pm
rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:16 pm
A_B wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 4:05 pm
Steve of phpBB wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 12:20 pm
rass wrote: ↑Fri Feb 17, 2023 11:31 am And now she wants to drive somewhere by herself. This is fucking bullshit I can’t take it.
Lol
And today my oldest showed up in Boston without ever telling us they were heading to the airport. We knew they were traveling, but it's weird to just be out of the loop. They are 22, for those so inclined to wonder.
I'm pretty sure some people buy drugs in Boston...
I'd be mad if they didn't! I gave them money for two vape carts once. I have yet to see the carts nor have I been refunded.

Probably should have stressed that the carts were for you.

rass · Post by **rass** » Sat Feb 18, 2023 5:55 pm

Walked up the street and paid for food and liquor to get drunk so technically off to a better start than last night but still probably gonna watch something dumb and fall asleep on the couch.

wlu_lax6 · Post by **wlu_lax6** » Tue Feb 21, 2023 7:46 pm

Son of wlu got into.the Harvard Pre-college program. It is really prestigious and competitive or just a money maker for the Crimson based on my research.

Kid.is very excited for international politics and the courses are taught by Kennedy School profs so should be a good experience.

govmentchedda · Post by **govmentchedda** » Tue Feb 21, 2023 8:56 pm

wlu_lax6 wrote: ↑Tue Feb 21, 2023 7:46 pm Son of wlu got into.the Harvard Pre-college program. It is really prestigious and competitive or just a money maker for the Crimson based on my research.

Kid.is very excited for international politics and the courses are taught by Kennedy School profs so should be a good experience.

Cognrats!

sancarlos · Post by **sancarlos** » Tue Feb 21, 2023 9:32 pm

That sounds pretty cool, wlu!

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Wed Feb 22, 2023 8:17 am

wlu_lax6 wrote: ↑Tue Feb 21, 2023 7:46 pm Son of wlu got into.the Harvard Pre-college program. It is really prestigious and competitive or just a money maker for the Crimson based on my research.

Kid.is very excited for international politics and the courses are taught by Kennedy School profs so should be a good experience.

Sounds super cool. Does it have college credit associated?