The Official Swamp Dating Thread

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Fri Feb 07, 2025 6:24 pm

Bengal is definitely one of those things!

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Fri Feb 07, 2025 6:24 pm

Respectfully.

HaulCitgo · Post by **HaulCitgo** » Fri Feb 07, 2025 6:47 pm

No one claimed he was a prognosticator of sporting outcomes

Steve of phpBB · Post by **Steve of phpBB** » Fri Feb 07, 2025 8:22 pm

A_B wrote: Fri Feb 07, 2025 3:32 pm Bengal's dating Grant Wahl's widow.

Lol

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Mon Feb 10, 2025 1:29 pm

Laughing at all that.

Dinner was indeed a borderline disaster. Definitely no chemistry.

The other possibility for next week ended up not working out.

BUT, hit a connection w/ someone Saturday and after some texting Saturday and later on Sunday, we ended up spur of the moment going out to get drinks last night after the game kicked off. We ended up having a really great two hours and I am pretty sure there will be a second date. She was awesome and we had a ton in common. As between Match and Bumble, Bumble has been the cooking-with-gas app this go round.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Thu Feb 13, 2025 10:39 am

Living near DC is wild - just had a profile of someone flip across my Bumble app/feed who lists "CNN pundit" as her job...also she's listing as liberal...I don't watch CNN at all at this point so can't place her but she lists her name on Bumble as Jordan. She also has as one of her pics a pic of her indeed on CNN pundit'ing.

Props to her - she's written a witty short bio.

And, yes, 3000 miles out of my league.

The Sybian · Post by **The Sybian** » Thu Feb 13, 2025 10:47 am

Jordan Valinsky? I don’t know, he looks really young, but I think you have a shot.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Thu Feb 13, 2025 10:50 am

The Sybian wrote: Thu Feb 13, 2025 10:47 am Jordan Valinsky? I don’t know, he looks really young, but I think you have a shot.

Lol, yeah, no. The pics on her profile are decidedly not that dude.

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Thu Feb 13, 2025 10:52 am

No, but that dude is gonna get some weird LinkedIn results in his next update.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Thu Feb 13, 2025 11:09 am

Can’t make pic work lo siento

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Thu Feb 13, 2025 11:18 am

tennbengal wrote: Thu Feb 13, 2025 11:09 am Can’t make pic work lo siento

oh god don't do that. We trust you.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Wed Feb 19, 2025 3:22 pm

My quest to stay sane while Musk and Trump end the country and the world continues to involve dating and...it's a lot. It's going well, but, definitely out of my usual comfort zone. Been on 4 real dates now -one of those have had a follow-up date, with 2 more first dates lined up over the weekend and another two first dates possibly in addition to that.

I am told this is what I am supposed to do, but, I really like a lot of these women and am finding it hard to keep it generally casual in this process. I think my age (I am 54) and theirs (they have all been between 46 and 54) is lending itself to fairly serious chats/texts/phone calls in terms of connecting early on and keeping it light in a crumbling world is...a challenge. In any event, I really liked the date I had last night and am headed to a jazz club with her on Saturday for a second date. Just feeling weird to also be texting/chatting and dating others at the same time. And, yes, no one has talked about exclusivity, but I also am super unfamiliar with this approach. I guess they are also perhaps having multiple dates and this is what is expected but...it's still strange to me.

HaulCitgo · Post by **HaulCitgo** » Wed Feb 19, 2025 3:50 pm

Sounds strange. Do some fucking. Don't get remarried. All I got

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Wed Feb 19, 2025 3:53 pm

HaulCitgo wrote: Wed Feb 19, 2025 3:50 pm Sounds strange. Do some fucking. Don't get remarried. All I got

That is all prelude to the second part of that, I would imagine. But sexing across several casual relationships...eh...generally not my personality type. Or hasn't been.

P.D.X. · Post by **P.D.X.** » Wed Feb 19, 2025 4:12 pm

It’s all the rage these days. I wouldn’t even broach exclusivity until after like 3 months of consistently seeing someone.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Wed Feb 19, 2025 4:21 pm

P.D.X. wrote: Wed Feb 19, 2025 4:12 pm It’s all the rage these days. I wouldn’t even broach exclusivity until after like 3 months of consistently seeing someone.

Really? That is good to know. Problem is, I can see those I am dating potentially catching feelings and what not. or...me, for that matter.

P.D.X. · Post by **P.D.X.** » Wed Feb 19, 2025 4:25 pm

You can still have feelings!

The Sybian · Post by **The Sybian** » Wed Feb 19, 2025 5:18 pm

P.D.X. wrote: Wed Feb 19, 2025 4:25 pm You can still have feelings!

I'm with PDX. You need to keep in mind that you never dated as an adult, it's a lot different than college (or at least it was 20 years ago when I last dated, so WTF do I know?).

I don't know if it was just a NYC thing or an adult thing, but when I was dating someone, I just assumed they were seeing several other people. I remember having a great email chain convo with law school friends our first year out. I was all excited about the dating scene and mentioned that I was dating 5 girls at the time, and one of my friends said "that's great, but Valentine's Day is 2 weeks out, what are you going to do?" Then the others chimed in with sit-com script material detailing my V-day. The last woman I dated before meeting my wife, I made a comment that I assume everyone I'm dating is dating others. She then showed me her calendar and detailed all the guys she went on dates with, which nights and where they went. I think she had three others rolling at the time. My stomach clenched each time she told me she ended it with one of the other guys and it was eventually just me. I much preferred when she had other options, as she was way more serious than I was.

My point, have fun, meet new people, and take your time getting into a serious relationship. You are coming out of a 30(?) year relationship, no need to rush into anything exclusive.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Thu Feb 20, 2025 9:15 am

that...makes sense. I will attempt to make that my lodestar.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Mon Mar 31, 2025 4:31 pm

While the world is falling apart, I’m at least moving away from the multi-first dates world, looks like I’ve found someone - which is cool. Turned off the apps anyway.

Giff · Post by **Giff** » Mon Mar 31, 2025 5:15 pm

Nice. Hope it works out!

DaveInSeattle · Post by **DaveInSeattle** » Mon Mar 31, 2025 5:16 pm

tennbengal wrote: Mon Mar 31, 2025 4:31 pm While the world is falling apart, I’m at least moving away from the multi-first dates world, looks like I’ve found someone - which is cool. Turned off the apps anyway.

Good on ya.

mister d · Post by **mister d** » Mon Mar 31, 2025 5:20 pm

Something something load star.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 10:30 am

Giff wrote: Mon Mar 31, 2025 5:15 pm Nice. Hope it works out!

She's an attorney, and a farmer!

DSafetyGuy · Post by **DSafetyGuy** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 11:12 am

You don't have to be lonely... at attorney-farmers.com.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 11:13 am

DSafetyGuy wrote: Tue Apr 01, 2025 11:12 am You don't have to be lonely... at attorney-farmers.com.

It's quite niche!

DSafetyGuy · Post by **DSafetyGuy** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 11:17 am

tennbengal wrote: Tue Apr 01, 2025 11:13 am
DSafetyGuy wrote: Tue Apr 01, 2025 11:12 amYou don't have to be lonely... at attorney-farmers.com.
It's quite niche!

I briefly tried to figure out how to make a joke about there being only one, but threw in the towel quickly.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 10:05 am

Yeah, definitely a short-lived return to the dating scene. I am very happy to have found the attorney/farmer. Thanks to everyone for listening/advice on this thread as to my return to dating over the last few years. Hoping my exit is from current dating updates is permanent in this thread. That is the plan anyway. She seems pretty psyched to have found me too, so that's nice and what not.

sancarlos · Post by **sancarlos** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 10:43 am

tennbengal wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 10:05 am Yeah, definitely a short-lived return to the dating scene. I am very happy to have found the attorney/farmer. Thanks to everyone for listening/advice on this thread as to my return to dating over the last few years. Hoping my exit is from current dating updates is permanent in this thread. That is the plan anyway. She seems pretty psyched to have found me too, so that's nice and what not.

A farmer always needs a strong young field hand!

Nonlinear FC · Post by **Nonlinear FC** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 11:21 am

I really expect more out of Citgo than this deafening silence.

GoodKarma · Post by **GoodKarma** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:07 pm

tennbengal wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 10:05 am Yeah, definitely a short-lived return to the dating scene. I am very happy to have found the attorney/farmer. Thanks to everyone for listening/advice on this thread as to my return to dating over the last few years. Hoping my exit is from current dating updates is permanent in this thread. That is the plan anyway. She seems pretty psyched to have found me too, so that's nice and what not.

That’s great…congrats! Did you review the horrors/tragedies of being a Bengals fan with her and is she on board with that?

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:09 pm

GoodKarma wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:07 pm
tennbengal wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 10:05 am Yeah, definitely a short-lived return to the dating scene. I am very happy to have found the attorney/farmer. Thanks to everyone for listening/advice on this thread as to my return to dating over the last few years. Hoping my exit is from current dating updates is permanent in this thread. That is the plan anyway. She seems pretty psyched to have found me too, so that's nice and what not.
That’s great…congrats! Did you review the horrors/tragedies of being a Bengals fan with her and is she on board with that?

She's really not all that clued into general sports zealotry so that can remain my private horror for the most part!

Steve of phpBB · Post by **Steve of phpBB** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:13 pm

tennbengal wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 10:05 am Yeah, definitely a short-lived return to the dating scene. I am very happy to have found the attorney/farmer. Thanks to everyone for listening/advice on this thread as to my return to dating over the last few years. Hoping my exit is from current dating updates is permanent in this thread. That is the plan anyway. She seems pretty psyched to have found me too, so that's nice and what not.

I dunno, man.

I mean, this is great for you and all - and congratulations on that - but kinda boring for the rest of us.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:26 pm

At some point I might get to learn how to drive one or both of the tractors, that might offer some comic relief and what not...

I'm also gonna muck out a goat pen in the coming week or two.

mister d · Post by **mister d** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:36 pm

tennbengal wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:26 pmI'm also gonna *uck ... a goat ... in the coming week or two.

Nonlinear FC · Post by **Nonlinear FC** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:44 pm

Inspired work D.

A_B · Post by **A_B** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:55 pm

Nonlinear FC wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:44 pm I... work D.

tennbengal · Post by **tennbengal** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:59 pm

The Sybian · Post by **The Sybian** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 2:13 pm

tennbengal wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:26 pm At some point I might get to learn how to drive one or both of the tractors, that might offer some comic relief and what not...

I'm also gonna muck out a goat pen in the coming week or two.

Videos, please.

The Sybian · Post by **The Sybian** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 2:13 pm

mister d wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:36 pm
tennbengal wrote: Wed Apr 23, 2025 12:26 pmI'm also gonna *uck ... a goat ... in the coming week or two.

Videos, please.